Empathy > Morality

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Assuming that all of us agree with the universal fact that change is the only constant, morality / ethics / values too keep evolving with time.

Take for instance a scenario in present day urban India – A widow finds love and sets out to dream of a happy life all over again. Today, the widow won’t find much resistance in acting out on her dream. But if we place the same widow in our recent past where widows were isolated from rest of society and were expected to live a life devoid of personal freedom, where widow re-marriage was a taboo, forget even considering it a possibility. As a society, how do we end up judging the same widow for living her own life in a different time?

Morality / Ethics / Values are subjective features and hence invalid units of measurement when it comes to judging people’s behaviour, yet we end up judging others based on our own brand of ethics.

Each generation has a majority that swims with the flow of acceptance in society. This type of people is an adaptive breed, which bends according to the set of rules they are accepted to follow. On a practical note, this approach works on a larger scale, as the strong current of the already established flow takes these people ahead in their present-day social aspects while holding them back in a more pronounced way by stopping the evolution of their souls.

Each generation also has a minority that do not fit in the set norms of society. These individuals are mostly those who are in constant process of knowing themselves, accepting their true selves and keeping in sync with evolution of their concentrated individualistic personas. In this type of people, the risks are high in terms of their social growth but I doubt if that factor matters to these specimen. The need to know one-self generally has its roots in the friction with one’s immediate surroundings and sometimes within one-self. Almost always, the process starts with the ability to question the accepted forms of living.

So in both cases there is growth in some aspects and downfall in other aspects. At the end it depends on what we held important in our personal development. And these values that individuals held important in their personal development eventually alter the way societies evolve.

So whenever I lay my hands on Morality in my psychological toolbox, I tend to set it aside and pick up Empathy instead, which I find to be a more powerful tool when it comes to understanding the choices that people make. And believe me, ‘Understanding’ is a more efficient way of life than ‘Judging’ can ever be.

Evil

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This is written in Quran,
That is written in Geeta,
In the name of God,
They have interpreted it well,
Follow, or hell awaits

Long beards, white robes,
Bald heads, saffron robes,
Trying, Manipulating,
To control lengths of skirts
To dictate what girls wear

Love! Before marriage!
Intercaste! How dare she?
Ruined our family name!
Kill both, Save our honour
What all these youngsters make us do!

Women are different,
Vulnerable, Weaker,
Control them, Hide them
Marry them off,
They need to be saved

A voice arises,
“The one capable of giving birth
Can she be really weak?”
They crush it though
You youngsters and your questions!

She was raped! What was she wearing?
Spaghetti top! Revealing Dress!
Bitch! She was asking for it…
“Would it matter if she wore a sari, burkha?”
You youngsters and your questions!

An unmarried couple on a bike,
Evil, Evil, This is the age of evil…
“Is there a greater evil
Than one that seeks power over free mind?”
You youngsters and your questions!

– Samir Satam

Postcards From Memory – An upcoming book

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One rainy day, the postman drops a postcard at the doorsteps of ‘Present’. It comes from a friend from distant lands. ‘Past’ is her name. Time pauses, stands still, blues set in while clouds of remembrance pour memories…

In form of verses, Postcards from memory is an attempt to pay tribute to a lost city named Nostalgia that we tend to visit every once in a while…

Postcards from Memory’ is a bouquet of poems that bloom in ten distinct categories based on diverse themes.

Pre-order your copy of Postcards From Memory now from the link below…

Postcards From Memory by Samir Satam http://www.amazon.in/dp/9383306157/ref=cm_sw_r_udp_awd_Mmoztb0PE3BNB

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